“Everything works out in the end. if it
hasn't worked out yet, then it's not the end.”
― Tracy McMillan
Ancient burial stones tumbled, lopsided
and barely appearing from moss covered mounds were everywhere. A jumble of death.
In the midst of this a tall stone
monument stood on a plinth, newer, built in 1922 and erected in memory of those
who died in WWI.
The sign read “as there was no
repatriation of bodies during the war, it was important for the villagers to
have somewhere to come and remember the fallen”.
Heavens to Betsy! I was struck by the word “repatriation” and
the sense of loss. I imagined the
village looking for their loved ones and having nowhere to turn to find
them. The very language we use is
like a minefield, fraught and jangling to the nerves. Time and time again folks tell me “I hate
that word – repatriation.” Well, no
wonder – it’s associated with death, the end, finality and not anything like a
bright future
That word, the very arrangement of those
syllables and vowels kind of makes my skin crawl slightly. A dictionary definition for the word is "The process of returning an
asset, an item of symbolic value or a person - voluntarily or forcibly - to its
owner or their place of origin or citizenship.”
No wonder we hate it
with a passion. The one word that describes the returning home process is
associated with loss, sadness and perhaps in olden days the idea of death.
Certainly, in modern-day America, repatriation continues to be linked to deceased military personnel and return of their remains. A sacred and silent moment
of arrival which is hidden from cameras, film crews and the press, as if the
rest of us need to be protected or shielded from the reality of war.
Is it any wonder
that around this subject for those repatriating from foreign assignments, there is an attitude of “don’t worry you will
survive”, “never mind, just tough it out” or “everyone goes through it”?
It’s as if
repatriation is an infectious disease that we catch for a short time then shake it
off.
Yet, it is
absolutely critical to spend time in reflection and contemplation after losing
or moving from a place. For some people,
it can be like losing a loved one. Telling the stories, debriefing ourselves and
rearranging the experiences in our mind’s eye can help with the process of
arriving well.
I discovered that
when we align our purpose with the people and activities we love, life starts to
re-arrange itself in happy new formations. Yes, there is the possibility that
repatriation can transform itself into a revival or a revitalization of life. A new life recipe can be created.
It seems like it’s time to create new
language, new conversations and new behaviors around repatriation – both the
word and the process. Because, what if
this could be an opportunity to not only move home but to create a new mindset in the process? What if in moving home you could build an entirely new life that you love even more? What if you could actively and
consciously choose a new identity in the midst of this process? What if you can build that essential sense of belonging
with ease and grace? What “iffing”
ourselves can move the process along and create space for something we would prefer.
Together, let’s approach this word, this
topic and this sacred process with some positive language or at least some
whacky out of the box creativity.
Call me Pollyanna, but I for one believe
that this stage in one’s life, when handled well, can be the most wonderful, joy
filled transition. While
returning home or repatriating maybe the conclusion of a previous dream lived
overseas, it can also be the brand-new baby beginning of an adventure back
home.
Here’s to dreaming, here’s to life!
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